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He Stoops Down To Me


Hazelnut Coffee and Beautiful Promises❤️ You stoop down to make me great. Psalm 18:35b #perfectwaytobegintheday #unabashedhope #90DayswiththeBelovedDiscipleJohn #bethmoore #paneracoffee #toranisignaturesyrup #hazelnut #fiestajumbomug #ps1835


I Am Here


I Am Here

I have not abandoned you to suffer in misery and angst. 

I Am here to comfort you.

I have not abandoned you to hunger and want. 

I Am here to provide all that you need.

I have not abandoned you in the midst of your pain and grief. 

I Am here to dry your tears.

I have not abandoned you stewing in your biting anger and cynicism. 

I Am here to plead for you with all that I Am. 

I have not abandoned you to languish in powerlessness and fear. 

I Am here to protect and defend you.  

I Am here.
Laurie Pontious-Andrews

John 14:18

#unabashedhope #john1418 

In You


In You

I am no longer languishing in poverty, hunger, and neglect.

I am filled to overflowing and wholly satisfied.

I am no longer isolated, cut off, and afraid.

I am enveloped by the very warmth of Your presence.

I am no longer enslaved in a prison of shame and guilt.

I am liberated to come and go as my heart chooses.

I am no longer fodder and prey to the enemy.

I am sheltered, defended, and protected by Your hand.

I am no longer dismayed of the power of death.

I am alive eternally in You.

I am no longer lost, aimless, and alone.

I am held firmly where I belong in Your loving embrace.

I am no longer adrift in a sea of nothingness.

I am anchored securely by Your great love for me.

Laurie Pontious-Andrews

John 8:48-59
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One Who Has Been There


“The bromides, platitudes, and exhortations to trust God from nominal believers who have never visited the valley of desolation are not only useless; they are textbook illustrations of unmitigated gall. Only someone who has been there, who has drunk the dregs of our cup of pain, who has experienced the existential loneliness and alienation of the human condition, dares whisper the name of the Holy to our unspeakable distress. Only that witness is credible; only that love is believable.” 
Brennan Manning – Ruthless Trust
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Welcome As You Are


“When the prodigal son limped home from his lengthy binge of waste and wandering, boozing and womanizing, his motives were mixed at best. He said to himself, ‘How many of my father’s paid servants have more food than they want, and here I am dying of hunger! I will leave this place and go to my father.’ 
The ragamuffin’s stomach was not churning with compunction because he had broken his father’s heart. He stumbled home simply to survive. 

For me, the most touching verse in the entire Bible is the father’s response: ‘While he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was moved with pity. He ran to the boy, clasped him in his arms and kissed him tenderly.’ 
I am moved that the father didn’t cross-examine the boy, bully him, lecture him on ingratitude, or insist on any high motivation. He was so overjoyed at the sight of his son that he ignored all canons of prudence and parental discretion and simply welcomed him home. The father took him back just as he was. 
What a word of encouragement, consolation, and comfort! We don’t have to sift our hearts and analyze our intentions before returning home. Abba just wants us to show up. 
We don’t have to tarry at the tavern until purity of heart arrives. We don’t have to be shredded with sorrow or crushed with contrition. We don’t have to be perfect or even very good before God will accept us. We don’t have to wallow in guilt, shame, and self-condemnation. 
Even if we still nurse a secret nostalgia for the far country, Abba falls on our neck and kisses us.” 
–Brennan Manning (The Ragamuffin Gospel)

The Difference Between Religion and Relationship


My heart is so very heavy this morning.

Please bear with me as I mull over the difference between Religion and Relationship…

Religion –

Religion blocks the Holy Spirit’s access to our pain.

Religion disables our ability to be honest about our pain.

Religion prevents us from experiencing our pain as a navigation through our grief.

Religion prevents us from truly releasing and experiencing the fullness of forgiveness.

Religion prevents us from owning and fully releasing our anger.

Religion shackles us in emotional denial.

Religion tells us that our feelings are not accepted as they really are.

Religion uses condemnation and judgment to hold us in place.

Religion prevents us from being freed from our anger and bitterness.

Religion is hard, callous, and cold.

Religion demands that we “pretty ourselves up – first” then…

Religion subtly convinces us that we can get over it by doing more, being better, quoting more, studying more, and performing better.

Relationship –

Relationship provides a safe place where we are accepted, valued, and loved no matter how deep our pain or how vast our anger.

Relationship assures us that our feelings are okay and welcomes to freely give voice to them without minimizing, trivializing, or denying.

Relationship never demands that we be anything other than what we presently are.

Relationship invites us to be open, transparent, and honest.

Relationship never condemns or judges.

Relationship longs to care, extend comfort, and hold us as we grieve.

Relationship desires to give us what we are utterly unable to give ourselves.

Relationship longs to heal our pain and hurts.

Relationship is a place of healing, deliverance, and hope.

Relationship assures us that all we need is provided simply because we are loved.


An End to the Study of War


An End to the Study of War

A captive to the study of war.
Days of deep darkness
An unbearable burden.

Replaying every frame
Of every assault, every battle
Over and over again.

Trying to make sense
Of the inexplicable.
Unable to stop the insanity.

Dredging unhealed wounds
Clawing at the brokenness
Seated in the ashes.

Bravely suffering through the grief.
Doing the difficult work of mourning.
Feeling deeply – pain, anger, injustice.

Learning the art of letting go.
Releasing all to the One
Who listens, comforts and heals.

No longer given to the study of war.
Laying down the weaponry
For the study of peace.

Unshackled from the clutches
Of exploitation and oppression
Of past assailants and abusers.

No longer imprisoned under tyranny,
Discovering the beautiful gift of
Thinking on things worthy and pure.

Things that fill the heart with hope,
Flood the soul with inspiration,
And give birth to creativity and artistry.

~ Laurie Pontious-Andrews

Job 2:8 – And he took a piece of broken pottery with which to scrape himself, and he sat [down] among the ashes.

Philippians 4:8 – For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them].

Philippians 4:8 – Fix your thoughts on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine, good things in others. Think about all you can praise God for and be glad.

Down by the Riverside
Old Time Gospel Song 1918

Well, I’m gonna lay down my sword and shield, (Where?) down by the riverside
Down by the riverside, down by the riverside
I’m gonna lay down my sword and shield, (A-ha) down by the riverside
I’m gonna study war no more

I ain’t a gonna study war no more, I ain’t a gonna study war no more
I ain’t a gonna study war no more, I ain’t a gonna study war no more
I ain’t a gonna study war no more, I ain’t a gonna study war no more

“I ain’t a gonna study war no more.”

Thoughts on Genuine from the Heart Forgiveness…


Thoughts on Genuine from the Heart Forgiveness…

For me, forgiveness has been a natural by-product of my continued healing and recovery. It wasn’t something I set out to do – like an objective or goal. In fact I didn’t believe it possible.

Rather than focusing on forgiving as a rule or law (I am a Christian btw) I chose to just walk out the process of healing one step at a time – focusing on what was in front of me and only that.

I believe people can get stuck by trying to follow religious law and never get to really experience freedom and peace way down deep within.

We can say we forgive – yet continue to feel the rage and pain. That is torment not freedom. We can’t live in that painful conflicted state.

For me, as I have continued to work through painful memories and events I discovered something I was never aiming for – compassion.

It took me aback me at first. It made absolutely no sense to my reasoning brain. I remember asking my therapist if she believed I was being honest about my feelings about the event. She smiled and said yes.

Compassion has led to mercy which by definition means forgiveness.

This has led to a place of freedom and unity within me. I am slowly being freed from conflicted feelings, emotions, and beliefs.

I can’t truly explain how that has taken place but I can say that I have been steadily working through my pain for over 22 years. It has been ugly. And it has hurt. There is no other way I can describe it.

So – should we forgive? Do they deserve forgiveness? Why should we forgive them?

I don’t have the answers for these questions but I will say based on my own personal experience don’t let a rule be your focus. It’s not about the abuser. It’s about you and your healing. Let your focus be on whatever you are experiencing today – in this moment. Continue to walk out your healing/recovery. There are no hard and fast rules because each of us are unique and the abuse has impacted us differently.

I hope this helps. As a Christian I don’t ever want to appear “religious” because that is not who I am. I believe it is through Relationship – not rules – that I am being made well. But it is a process and I don’t believe it can be rushed or dictated how and when certain things will be felt.

Trust your heart. 😊